When someone dies, grief becomes the focus — and rightly so.
But often, grief doesn’t get the space it needs because it’s immediately met with something else: work.
Suddenly, you’re a project manager, a personal assistant, an investigator, and a decision-maker — all while navigating shock, sadness, or numbness.
This is the hidden labour of loss.
It’s sorting through drawers for documents.
It’s cancelling a phone plan or closing a bank account.
It’s making a hundred small, strange decisions you never thought you’d have to make.
It’s chasing information that only the person who passed away would’ve known.
And all of it — every task — feels heavier when you're grieving.
It's okay if you're feeling overwhelmed.
This kind of work isn’t just admin. It’s emotional labour.
The emails, the forms, the waiting on hold — they all carry a weight.
Sometimes just seeing the to-do list is enough to shut down for the day.
Sometimes you power through, and crash later.
You’re not doing it wrong. It’s just hard.
There’s nothing weak or disorganised about struggling with the paperwork after a death.
You’re carrying grief and responsibility at the same time — and that’s a lot.
If you need help untangling the next step, Fairlight is here.
I can gently take the practical off your plate, so you have more space to heal.
You’re not alone in this. And you don’t have to do it all.
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